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Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Diary of a bereaved mother.



I was part of a documentary for the Baby Loss Awareness Week: Oct 9th to 15th. This was showed on National TV on Sunday.

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Sands-Auckland-Central/112396652171998

Some bereaved mothers and dads went to a park by the beach and released balloons.

Thanks Scriptor Senex, I always feel empathy from fellow bereaved parents and those grandparents and those close friends.

You did a great job, how long ago did your son die? We never fully get over our loss, don't we. Though this year, I am philosophical about not having Andrew. I tell myself, he made me a writer because he died. Otherwise, I will just be a amateur writer.

Many husbands including mine belong to stiff upper lip group, the category that we should accept and move on. I wrote in my book how I wished he continued to attend the Sands meetings.

I go to the Sands meetings, and more women attend the meetings than men. Those men who attend, they are very good.The meetings are not just for their wives but for themselves too.

7 comments:

Scriptor Senex said...

My wife and I did a lot of publicity work for the few years after our son died in infancy. I wrote and did some public speaking (mainly for the Foundation for the Study of Infant Death in the UK and for the Alder Centre - a centre for all those affected by the loss of a child at Liverpool's Children's Hospital). I always found it was hardest to get fathers to acknowledge the impact it had had on them. The stiff upper lip of the Britsh combinmed with the macho male attitude to life made it very difficult for them.
Please keep up the good work.

Betsy from Tennessee said...

Hi Ann, Glad you were part of the documentary... It's such a worthwhile cause --and people need to be made aware of situations like this which can happen... Thanks for sharing.
Hugs,
Betsy

Ann said...

Thanks Scriptor Senex, I always feel empathy from fellow bereaved parents and those grandparents and those close friends.

You did a great job, how long ago did your son die? We never fully get over our loss, don't we. Though this year, I am philosophical about not having Andrew. I tell myself, he made me a writer because he died. Otherwise, I will just be a amateur writer.

Many husbands including mine belong to stiff upper lip group, the category that we should accept and move on. I wrote in my book how I wished he continued to attend the Sands meetings.

I go to the Sands meetings, and more women attend the meetings than men. Those men who attend, they are very good.The meetings are not just for their wives but for themselves too.

Ruth said...

As my first grandson develops and grows in my daughter's belly, all of my being surrounds you in empathy for such a loss. Thank you for vocalizing it, and supporting all the ones who have experienced this grief too. It must help tremendously.

Ash said...

It's a beautiful cause and kudos to you for lending your support to it. I'm sending you a warm hug.

George said...

Thanks for being a part of this ministry to parents who have suffered an unbelievable loss. What you have accomplished as a result of this tragedy in your life should give hope and be an inspiration to others.

rainfield61 said...

"What you have accomplished as a result of this tragedy in your life should give hope and be an inspiration to others."

I echo.